Knubble tov wrote:Where the hell did this idea come from that you have to respect the dead, especially if they were terrible human beings?
Since Man is Man.
In Archeo-Anthropology, it is generally agreed (from what I understand of the stuff I've read) that we started being modern "Humans", and not some evolved apes, the moment we started tending to our dead and disposing of them not as sack of rotting flesh but following complex rituals involving burials, cremation, offerings...
It's a pretty interesting question though, why early humans did start to see their dead as something more than just piles of flesh. I would think it happened soon after humans started to see their fellow humans as, well, people.
But we also know elephants do freaky shit to their deceased fellow elephants so what implications does that have about elephants when we also know elephants never forget?
who knows lol
how does darth vader eat
through the force
well then how does he shit
through the dark side
DracuLax - when even Death can't scare the shit out of you
I think burials are waste of time and money. When I die, I want my shit to be disposed of in the most cost-efficient way (they can take me out back and burn me, for all I care). I don't want to be buried so my loved ones can come visit me and weep and be sad. Accept my passing and move on with your life
But there's no moral obligation for me to give a shit about and respect scum.
Knubble tov wrote:Where the hell did this idea come from that you have to respect the dead, especially if they were terrible human beings?
Because the dead can't defend themselves from accusations.
When I die, I want my shit to be disposed of in the most cost-efficient way (they can take me out back and burn me, for all I care). I don't want to be buried so my loved ones can come visit me and weep and be sad.
Funeral rites aren't about the deceased, dipshit. They are an emotional outlet for the survivors and a way to give death a structured context which eases grieving.
thats the idea, but you can totally plan out a massively atavistic funeral arrangement that does nothing but make you feel better during life that you planned it
Bounty wrote:Funeral rites aren't about the deceased, dipshit. They are an emotional outlet for the survivors and a way to give death a structured context which eases grieving.
And I want them to go through that, why exactly? I hated every minute of my grandfather''s "funeral rites." The incessant crying made me more sad than him dying. I don't want my family members through that with me: no visitation, no burial. There's no reason to spend thousands of dollars to grieve. Hell, when my parents die (I'm keeping fingers crossed that it happens soon with my stepfather), I won't be attending because I'd rather grieve on my own, in private.
I read what he said, and I understand it. I know why such events take place. I just think, LIKE I MOTHERFUCKING POSTED, that it's a waste of time and money to go through such rituals when I feel that they make the pain of death even worse, from my numerous experiences. I relayed my most recent experience, where the plethora of crying made the event much worse for me because the pain others were feeling hurt me more than seeing my dead grandfather in his casket. It wasn't an outlet for my grief, which I dispensed with in a matter of minutes upon hearing that my grandfather died.
But I'm not like other people, and possibly emotionally crippled.
don't get shitty at me because you edited a bunch of content into your post after someone replied to it, buddy
this may astonish you
but your single AMAZINGLY SELFISH datapoint is more hilarious than meaningful
to destroy your infantile mind
are you ready for this? steel yourself
NOBODY LIKES FUNERALS YOU FUCKING DUMBASS
nothing you said is even relevant to bounty talking about a structured and cultural way of dealing with grief
try being less of a fuckwit
step one - realise not only is eveyrone else not like you, but virtually nobody is
your reply to 'funerary arrangements are not for the dead person, they are a way for the survivors to deal with this and move on'
sorry i mean the stuff you edited in after someone replied
was WAH WAH I HAD A BAD TIME AT A FUNERAL ONCE
which not only is amazingly selfish, blinkered and shallow is fundamentally ignorant but suggests you think a process to deal with grief should be pleasant
that you can say 'oh yeah i got over the grief in a few minutes' shows that you count repression as a solution
and that the funeral made you feel this way instead of just bringing out those feelings you repressed in your own personal inability to deal with them means they are useless
is so utterly reverso-world that it boggled the mind
this has aboslutely nothing about whatever made-up reason you have for not 'understanding people' or whatever you say to yourself at night to feel better about your overweening arrogance not somehow making you a better person
you just have zero introspection and don't even understand yourself
i may shock you again
gird your loins here
when my grandfather died, i didn't even care because i was 10,000km away and hadn't seen him in a decade and was a teenager and fucking those hoes liek i touch my toes
when i was surrounded by my surviving family and in a cultural process of acknowledging his death, i realised the enormity of his death and the way it resonated through the lives of everyone who knew him and how this was a shared tragedy
but then at 14 i wasn't stupid enough to say i DEALT WITH THE GRIEF IN SECONDS BECAUSE I AM ELITE and THE BAD FUNERAL FORCED ME TO FEEL BAD BECAUSE OF ALL THE CRYING PEOPLE THOSE DAMN RUDE CRYING PEOPLE MAKING ME FEEL BAD WHEN I HAD ALREADY DEALT WITH THE GRIEF IN SECONDS BECAUSE I AM ELITE
in short if something creates a feeling in you
maybe it isn't that thing shooting emotion rays at you
Knubble tov wrote:I am a cynical cunt, so I'm going to say that the following is bullshit, which is exactly why I didnt agree with bounty:
"your reply to 'funerary arrangements are not for the dead person, they are a way for the survivors to deal with this and move on"
People go to eulogize the dead. Period. They are not thinking that this is an outlet for their grief.
yeah, they do think its an outlet for grief. its why wakes are tied to funerals. for some people, ritual allows them to cope, the ritual of a passing from one state to another, and all the finality that entails.
do you know what eulogize even means in this context?
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That's why people giving eulogies look so happy, right?
Ps knobs good job completely ignoring four whole posts in order to just repeat your own butthurt experience driven by your specific family situation rather than yknow
Participating
Man my uncle talking about my dead grandma in front of all the people whose lives she touched - he loved that, it was really great for him!
To recap knobs hates his family, ergo all funerals are bad and is not because he has a basic inability to deal with his feelings AT